Okay people, this is my disclaimer: I myself being a girl mind and body, still do not fully understand the mindset of people who are transgendered. This was my attempt at putting myself into the shoes of someone who is FTM, or Female to Male stransgendered. Please feel point out any mistakes that I may have made, and please do it NICELY. I am still learning and any mistakes that I may have made are not in ANY WAY meant to offend. Thank you.
Second Disclaimer: All names used in this story were made up on the spot, and are not referencing any people living or dead.
Back story: I actually did get a long blue skirt from my grandmother today, and while I really do like the skirt and look forward to wearing it, she told me over the phone that line about how I always wear jeans and dress so androgynous. I never really thought I did, since I have really wide hips and a C cup bra size, it's kind of hard to mistake me for a boy. However, it is true that I hardly ever wear girly blouses and skirts, simply because I prefer the ease of just throwing on a t-shirt and jeans.
When my grandma said that line to me, she of course didn't mean any harm by it, but it got my thinking. I'm fairly new to the idea of being transgendered. I didn't even know what it was to be transgendered until an episode of a Canadian high school drama called Degrassi introduced a character named Adam, who was a FTM transgender with the birth name of Gracie. The idea seemed interesting to me, but mostly just because I plan on going to med school after I graduate, and the thought of someones mind and body sending a person two different signals interested me as a medical condition.
Then, not too long after that, one of my favorite cosplayers *twinfools
came out as FTM transgender! When I first read her, now his, journal about it, my first reaction was, "Oh, my gosh! Is Nova okay with this?!" Nova being the dA name for Twin's long-time IRL girlfriend. Turns out, yes, she was, and not soon after his announcement Twin started hormone therapy, and has had what most call "top surgery" to have his mammary glands removed. Twin has been on T for about a year now and it's impossible to know that he once was female unless you knew him before his change. I myself had always had my own little girl-crush on Twin, and now that he's a boy he's even better looking than before! Unfortunately for me, Twin and Nova are engaged to be married. I'm happy for them both though! They are such a cute couple!
Another gender-different person on dA that I look up to is *Double-oh-Seven
. DOS is not transgender, but instead what most call "gender fluid". That is to say, some days DOS will wake up feeling feminine. They'll put on a skirt and put on some make-up before going out and about their day. Other days, DOS will wake up and feel masculine. They'll throw on a tee-shirt and jeans and head on out.
I strongly admire those who are brave enough to come to terms with their gender-identity issues, whether they be fully transgendered or simply gender-fluid. My heart goes out to anyone struggling to find themselves in a very "black and white" "male or female" world. You are NOT alone, and there is always hope.
is transgendered, *Double-oh-Seven
is gender-fluid, and if anything you've read here has offended you, please go back and read and re-read the disclaimers before commenting. Thank you.